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Immediately after becoming engaged you should personally tell the people in your life who are the closest to you. This list would include your immediate family, especially your parents, and your closest friends.
News of an engagement travels pretty fast that is why it may be best to tell multiple people at once. If one relative tells another, this may make things easier for you but it may leave the relatives who found out secondhand feeling hurt or angry. A good way to ensure that you are the one telling those closest to you is by have a family dinner. You may need to hold 2 or 3 small get together to tell who’s most important in your lives before sending out a general announcement.
The dinners or get together should be within one week of the engagement. Since you are trying to no one finds out before this event make sure not to tell anyone beforehand. For this reason you will want to schedule these dinners as close to the engagement date as possible.
If the two families have not met yet or are not on good terms the dinners should be separate. If they have not met you should try to have a get together for the two families soon afterwards, at least one with the two of you and the parents. You may also have separate meals planned with close friends.
If either the bride or the groom has children, the absolutely must be told first.
Also, if there are any children from previous relationships they should be told first. This should know before the dinner. The children should be told as soon as the engagement occurs. Ask the children to not tell anyone until after the party as you want to tell all the guests at once. Also let them know that you do not want them to tell anyone until after the immediate family is told at the party. If the child or children are on good terms with the individual who is about to become their step parent you may even want to allow them to announce it at dinner so they feel involved.
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